Jackson recently turned six months old, and so far he has not slept through the night. His sleep schedule has been very hard on Jon while he is in school, and on me because like any mother, I value sleep.
On Sunday night Jon, Jackson and I went to Salt Lake to pick up our car that has been there for over a week (funny enough we forgot the key!) We ended up staying at his Grandma’s house for dinner, with his aunts and uncles. While there, I was able to talk you Jon’s aunt Lisa about a lot of different parenting things. One thing we touched on was the Cry It Out method. She mentioned that she had wanted to try it with her older son, but was un able to, and that her neighbor had done it, and it was successful.
My fear with letting Jackson cry it out, was that it would make him hate me and not trust me. Part of me was also worried that I wouldn’t feel the pain mom’s are supposed to feel when their children are screaming, or crying. In the past I have had a very hard time feeling connected to Jackson. Do I love him? Absolutley! But I had this irrational fear that I wouldn’t feel that connection while he was crying it out, and that somehow it would make me a bad mom. Another fear I had about crying it out, was the fact that a family friend had decided to let her son cry it out, and he died of SIDS. I can’t even begin to imagine the kind of pain they felt. And logically I knew that there was no connection between SIDS and crying it out, but I was scared to death. So you can see why I was hesitant to try this method in the first place.
Anyway, while we’re at dinner, I talked to Jon’s aunt, and she, in a way, talked me into it. So Monday night, Jon and I decided to let Jackson cry, with the exception of if he was hurt. 7 o’clock rolled around and I started to get Jackson ready for bed. I was very anxious about the whole thing, but figured I would snuggle him as much as I could before I laid him down to go to sleep. We sat in the rocking chair in the living room until he fell asleep, and then, I put him in bed.
Generally, Jackson wakes up twice: Once around midnight, and again around three or four. Midnight came, and Jackson started to cry, so in order to drown it out, I turned on my music and got in the shower. No such luck. My kid definitely has my lungs and loud voice, because I could still hear him. Finally, I got out of the shower and crawled in bed next to Jon. That night was one of the longest nights we have had since having Jackson. I refused to sleep until the baby quit crying, and Jon couldn’t sleep because of the crying and screaming itself. However we made it through the night!
The next night was great! Jackson went down at 8 o’clock, and didn’t wake up until 8 the next morning! I was impressed, it had actually worked! So to all you mom’s who are debating on trying this method, do it. If you have to run in and check on your child every time they stop crying to give yourself some comfort, do it!
What are some sleep methods you other mom’s have used? Have they worked? Comment and tell me!